Have you ever come face to face with someone that you were certain was going to hurt you or worse?
I have, and it was without a doubt the worst moment of my life. It wasn't so much the fear that I felt; it was more of my lack of action. I was helpless and froze at the worst possible time. Instead of taking a defensive posture, pushing my assailant away, striking him first, or even calling for help I just froze.
My lack of action not only endangered my life, but it also put the lives of my children, who were sitting in my car at the time, in danger. Talk about a major failure I exhibited that day. As a Father, I'm supposed to be able to protect my children and to do whatever it takes to keep them safe. On that day I did nothing, and as soon as my heart rate calmed down, I felt ashamed of myself.
Want to know something? I didn't hang my head in shame for very long. I didn't have the time or the energy to sit around feeling sorry for myself. I owed my family better, and my pathetic showing in the face of danger could never, ever, happen again. Before that moment, when I was nearly the victim of a violent assault, I lived in a state of blissful ignorance. Sure I saw violent crimes reported on the news every day, but that would never be me. I have never really been in a fight in my entire life. No scraps in grade school, no standing up to a bully in junior high, nothing. So when the possibility of being attacked and forced to fight occurred well into adulthood, I guess I shouldn't have been surprised that I didn't have any idea of how to handle the situation.
Fortunately, I am no longer anywhere near as vulnerable as I used to be. For one thing, my eyes were opened, and I began to see just how dangerous the world is. Once I came to this realization I began to look for effective means of self-defense. I looked into traditional martial arts, but most of them seemed so ritualistic and stylized. I mean am I going to try to throw a spinning crescent kick when my life is on the line? Probably not since missing would leave me very vulnerable to a counter attack. So I continued onward with my journey and managed to learn quite a bit about street fighting. I studied various forms of self-defense, as well as Krav Maga, and now feel extremely confident in my ability to handle myself if I am ever faced with the chance of a violent confrontation ever again. Today I am sharing with you the most important things you need to know to survive street and in home attacks.
You are most vulnerable to a violent attack if you don't see it coming. You can spend years training and be learning different defensive fighting techniques, but they won't mean anything at all if someone hits you from behind with a bat. So what you need to do is remain vigilant and pay attention to what is going on around you. This means that you need to keep your head on a swivel and put your phone down when you are out and about. Answering that text message or e-mail can wait until you are somewhere safe where you are not vulnerable to a surprise attack.
Part of situational awareness involves paying attention to your environment. Where are there possible exits or safe points you could get to? Are there any spaces that look conspicuous like there could be someone hiding there waiting to assault you? Is there anything around you that can be used as a weapon? Also, keep an eye on the people around you. Sometimes the biggest threat is obvious when you have someone crazy in your vicinity. Sometimes it's the quiet guy seemingly minding his own business. You won't know which of them, if any, are a threat unless you are paying attention to how they are acting and how they are moving. If someone takes up an aggressive posture as they approach you, or they reach into a coat or pants pocket, you should be on high alert. You don't have to attack them first, but you have to be prepared to defend yourself and then hit back should the need arise.
The moment that you feel that someone is going to engage you violently; yell out for help and take a defensive posture. Criminals don't like to be seen, and they don't like any undue attention that is drawn to them because you are yelling. Yelling is so effective that in many cases a criminal will choose to flee because they are afraid of being caught. In addition to screaming, you should also escape the situation if you can. The only fight that you are guaranteed not to lose is the fight you never get involved in. If you can get away to safety, then you do it. Don't let your pride or need to prove your manhood get in the way, get out and avoid the fight if you can.
If someone attacks me on the street at that point any empathy I have for them as a fellow human being is gone. I don't care who they are or why they are targeting me; I only care that they are a threat and they have to be taken down as quickly as possible. Always remember that the only rule in a street fight is that there are no rules. Do you have keys with you? Then take them out and use them to stab at your attacker's eyes. Have a belt on? Then take it off and swing that buckle at his face and try to inflict as much pain and damage as possible. The point here is that weapons give you an advantage. If you are attacked on the street, you have to assume it is a fight for your life. That means you have to do anything you can to win, and that includes fighting dirty and using weapons.
In addition to using improvised weapons, you should also consider carrying around actual weapons for self-defense. Before you act, make sure that you are not breaking any laws. Yes, self-defense is important, but at the same time, you don't want to end up in jail. Depending on where you live laws are governing the length of knives, as well as laws about firearms. If you live where you can carry a gun legally, then that is a bonus. Just make sure that you know how to use it. Now if you can't carry a gun then that doesn't mean you can't be armed. Have you ever been sprayed with pepper spray? If not let me explain it to you briefly, it sucks a lot. It burns, your nose runs, your eyes water, and you are effectively blind for a few minutes while you are gagging. The point here is that you can carry pepper spray legally almost anywhere, and it is a highly effective way at incapacitating someone.
Remember how I mentioned that in a street fight there is no such thing as a fair fight? Well, I meant it, and if you are ever in a street fight, then you don't worry about fighting honorably. You take the guy down, and you use every dirty, awful, cheap move you can think of. There isn't a medal for second place in a street fight, and if you lose, you could very well lose your life as well. So don't fight fair.
The following is a list of techniques that can be easily employed and target the most vulnerable parts of the human body.
Guess what kind of criminal can't-do much to hurt you? A criminal that can't see! If you have the opportunity to either scratch at, gouge at, or stab with a weapon the eyes of your attacker then you do it. If you have ever been poked in the eye, you realize just how painful it is. Not only does it hurt a lot it also makes your eyes water making it hard to see. If you manage to poke someone in the eye, then you should follow that with additional strikes to finish your opponent off.
The nose is another vulnerable part of a person's face that can cause your attacker a lot of pain and disorientation. A punch to the nose hurts, it causes the person's eyes to water, and if you hit hard enough, you can cause a lot of bleeding and even a broken nose. I guarantee you that the average criminal is going to panic if you hit them in the nose and break it causing a lot of bleeding. When I say attack the nose I mean to attack it. Don't jab at it lightly; hit it with a hammer fist, or a punch, a palm strike, or even an elbow.
Any guy will tell you that a kick in the man parts is unbelievably painful. If you hit a guy in the groin area with a knee or a kick he is probably going to drop to the floor and howl in pain. A kick to the groin is instantly disabling which means that after you hit your attacker there, the threat is effectively over. Then you can turn and run to safety.
I remember watching all of those great martial arts movies as a kid where the hero would throw these spectacular kicks and drop bad guy after bad guy. Sadly that doesn't work. Throwing a high kick looks great, but it's not that effective. Most people are quick enough to avoid one, and it leaves you vulnerable to having your kick caught. Does this mean that all kicks are bad? No, in fact, certain kicks can be highly effective. One such kick is a kick to the inside or outside of the knee. A solid strike on the knee is not only very painful, but it's also potentially disabling. If you hit someone the right way and with enough force, you can cause enough of an injury to disable your attacker.
Throwing an effective elbow is much like throwing a punch, the only difference is that you keep your arm bent at the elbow and you strike with your elbow instead of your fist. An elbow has several advantages over a punch that makes it a great self-defense technique. First elbows don't break whereas a punch can end up breaking your hand. Second, an elbow does a lot more damage than a punch does. If you can land a solid elbow to someone's jaw, you can easily break it, and that's going to be the end of the fight.
Your home should be a haven, a place where you can relax and unwind after a long day. That means that you should fortify your home as much as possible to keep out potential intruders. Having solid doors, security doors, and window bars will keep out the vast majority of would-be intruders. But if someone wants to get in then they are going to find a way to do it. That means that you have to be prepared for an intruder
First, pay attention to the layout of your home. Look for things that could be used as a weapon and make a mental note of them. For example in the kitchen, you could pull out a knife if someone suddenly broke in. Or if you are near your garage maybe you can grab a hammer. The point is that there are potential weapons all around you, and since your home is much more familiar to you then you have an advantage in this respect. So practice getting to weapons and remembering where they are. This will enable you to avoid panicking and take action if someone does manage to break into your home.
If you haven't given much thought to the possibility of you or a family member becoming the victim of a violent assault, then it's time to open your eyes. I had my eyes opened when I was nearly the victim of a violent assault. It's only through luck that the man who was threatening me left; to be honest I'm shocked he didn't beat me to death. It is my sincere hope that by reading what happened to me, and what I have done to prevent future threats, you will learn from my experiences. I don't want you to have to experience the fear and terror I felt. I want you to take what you have learned here today and use it to learn the self-defense technique you are going to need to keep yourself and your family safe.